Posts by Another Guy

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Part Three In The Another Guy series (jw dating non-jw)

by Another Guy in

well here i am again if you haven't already read my story here are my first two major posts: .

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/61246/1.ashx.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/64338/1.ashx.

Another Guy

Things are looking up!!!!

The day after my post I had a meeting with my church Minister, it was excellent we went a little more into detail then I do on the net for obvious reasons. But he has certainly helped me see things logically. My main issue was closure I realised I have two options, one ask if she will give me the answers that i require for closure or two create my own closure. Well she is going to have coffee and offered to give these answers and I do realise if I don't get the answers I still need to create my own closure. I also realised that there can no longer be any friend relationship like she says I just want things to go back to normal and I didn't know how to do that. Well now I know why because it can't go back to normal. I'm also going to make that point. And I guess a reassuring thought is I can do better, Do I really want someone who would treat me like this? My minister also helped me understand how she can get over it easier than I get, She broke up with me and she's been dealing with this for longer than I have. It's not like she just turned around one day and said thats it, she had allready been thinking about it for sometime.

Thanks everyone for your stern but much needed help!

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Trying to Believe in Love

by Lori in

i am new to this, and any form of online chat, but reading some of your postings inspired me to write.

i am even unsure how to check responses, but hopefully there will be some and i will learn.. i am completely torn.

i have met the man of my dreams, and was told the other day that we would not work because he was looking to the future and could not imagine putting up a christmas tree and lights in his home.. when we met, i knew he was raised a witness, but he assured me he had not been to meetings in 8 years because he did not "feel it".

Another Guy

Here's a little thing I learnt,

DON'T force any info on him to try and show him he is wrong this usually ends very bad.

I do though agree with the point of reading Raymond Franz's book Crisis of Conscience availiabe at www.commentarypress.com and it would be good if he could read this too but don't push, plant seeds but don't over fertilise them you just end up killing them.

I learnt this the hard way!

Best of luck!

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Part Three In The Another Guy series (jw dating non-jw)

by Another Guy in

well here i am again if you haven't already read my story here are my first two major posts: .

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/61246/1.ashx.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/64338/1.ashx.

Another Guy

Well here I am again if you haven't already read my story here are my first two major posts:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/61246/1.ashx

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/64338/1.ashx

Now that your up-to-date lets continue.

We broke up on new years eve and it was on good terms (I thought), But for the first couple of weeks she wouldn't talk to me then on and off she would talk a bit. Then we started writing letters to tell each other how we felt about things. Then a couple of weeks ago I asked her if she wanted to buy me lunch because she owes me a couple and we were starting to get on a little better. But she said she couldn't and I had this strange gut feeling so me being me pursed it only to find out it was a guy who is her new boyfriend(who is jw), I was/am pretty upset because firstly she wouldn't talk to me about what happened between us and she wouldn't even try to sort things out so we can be friends, she just wants me to forget it all and get on with my life, then secondly I was cut because she wouldn't even listen to why I couldn't just join the wt instead she'd rather go off with this other guy and now doesn't have time to sort this crap out with me. I know alot of you are thinking this guy just has to move on but there is a lot of things I have been left wondering now like all the stuff she said about wanting to find the truth(religion wise), and how she said she loves me and cares about me. Now she won't even tell me how long she has actually been with this guy, what am I supposed to think???

Well it has today officially affected my work(we work together), I was called into the office by my boss(who knows a bit about whats happening) who basically said get over it your work performance has dropped and something gotta change. Well I explained how he doesn't understand because it's not just another normal breakup. So i'm taking a weeks holiday to sort out my house, finances and mind and by the loks of things I might try and buy me a small business and Get On with my life following Christ like a true Christian should.

Also I must add one thing that really helped me through this(besides Concerned Mama) is listening to a band by the name of Planet Shakers, these guys rock!!!

Well thats about it, If anyone wants to know more of my experiences please I urge you private message me and id love to help you out!

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Non-JW dating a JW? (sorry for it again!)

by redbull in

this post is again about the subject of a non-jw dating a jw.

however, i would first like to say that i am new to this forum and have really appreciated all the comments that have helped me better understand the problems with this kind of relationship.

this is again very similar to the post by llama (see: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/63407/1.ashx).

Another Guy

Well I guess it's my turn now,

Let's just say your post is basically my story to the letter, We've been apart since new years eve and i'm still not recovering.

Please read my two post's, they're not the full story but I decided to release part 3 of the series tonight. If you wanna know more detail pm me and i'll help you all I can, I might have a few tips on what to and not to do.

Well here they are, they give you most of the story:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/61246/1.ashx

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/64338/1.ashx

PS. Planet Shakers ROCK!!!!!!!

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Crisis of Conscious

by CountryGuy in

jw
friends

i have read on here over and over how great crisis of conscious is, but i can't find it anywhere.

i have tried to order it from both hastings and barnes & nobel, but neither of them can get it.

they have tried to order it for six weeks now with no luck.

Another Guy

Hi Guys,

I bought my copy from the publisher here's there site:

http://www.commentarypress.com/

And yes it is a terrific book!

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just a thought

by jukesjoker in

this is a question that keeps bugging me, if a non-jw were charming or good looking enough would the jw have a relationship with that non-jw?

or would the jw think it was a test and stick to his or her guns and still reject that person.

Another Guy

I agree consider yourself extremely lucky!!! You will one day realise what you have just avoided!

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Work to be saved???

by Another Guy in

i was just wondering if jw's actually believe that they are not yet already saved but have to do work for jehovah to earn this?

eg doorknocking and so fourth.

Another Guy

What work/tasks do they believe they need to complete to be saved? And is there some sort of scoring system?

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Work to be saved???

by Another Guy in

i was just wondering if jw's actually believe that they are not yet already saved but have to do work for jehovah to earn this?

eg doorknocking and so fourth.

Another Guy

I was just wondering if jw's actually believe that they are not yet already saved but have to do work for jehovah to earn this? eg doorknocking and so fourth.

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WT CD rom

by simplesally in

i now have a pc again.

i had gotten rid of the wt cd because i had a mac ................ can anyone get me a cd-rom?

Another Guy

I lent my copy to someone, but I'll get it back tomorrow and upload it to a couple of sites!

If anyone in Australia wants one let know and I'll post you a copy.

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newbie with a cliche post

by jukesjoker in

i like many young non-jws i have meet a jw and fell in love,but i think what me different from the rest is i feel special.

i feel like i have been waiting like this all life from the time i was a kid to know, not a very good description, but i do feel that i a situation where i could win her, i feel that the starts are aligned for this.

i know that there are 5 weekly meetings, but can anybody describe them, and also the district assembly or something like takes place a couple times a year ?

Another Guy

Raymond Franz's book is of the experiences of a member(Raymond Franz) of the Governing Body of Jehovah's Witness it explains situations that he went through and how the governing body is run and how all the decisions are made for how jw's will live there life. It doesn't really explain the life of a young jw but it does tell of cases where the rules and so on decided by the governing body affect so many peoples lives. There is some WT literature about what is expected of you when growing up as a jw I think ConcernedMama might actually have it, but i'll search around on my computer for it. I think it comes off the WT library cd?